Hello my Lola,
We have spoken at length about this but again bravo for that decision, and again and again I wish you a great year 2010! I’m sure you’ll be enriched by this experience and to give it up would have been more difficult, I think.
The new year is starting with high speed, there is not even time to write! By the way, I’m always amazed at the way women communicate. I really admire it. Honestly, is it not extraordinary that two women together manage to laugh, to be moved, to worry, to think things through, to prove things, to argue, to sometimes cry, and then emerged strong, happy, enriched, confident, and so much more?
A mass of emotions shared with a friend in a short space of time. The text messages and emails between all women should be recorded, they are often funny and relevant, very concise. In a nutshell the situation is established, the friend responds exactly in the right tone, and manages to make us smile, even seriously laugh.
Gone are the days when we could frequently share holidays or even weekends together. The reality of our lives as adult women, mothers, and professionals is quite different. Our calendars so completely filled, often living in geographically complicated situations, with a definite lack of time.
So how should we respond when society and the media could constrain us to focus on aviation insecurity, pandemics and the global economic situation? How can we avoid getting lost in these stories without a purpose? How can we avoid to just cry and let ourselves go? How can we focus on being dignified but also sincere in this time of life, which we want to appreciate with one another, in this empathy we feel, in this confidence that verify in the gaze of a smiling friend, happy as we are in these stolen encounters in our daily lives?
How should we do it? We all develop secret codes, instant selection, deadlocks on issues that are important to the other, we go through a process of deciphering, and sometimes we work by putting things into labelled boxes. Because we feel transformed into Windows XP, to a time still kept secret by Microsoft and we deal with information in files!
Child folders: you open it, I open it, it bounces, you get lost, oops, time to move to the work file, there is a lot of passion here, with explanations, the other is often the first fan. The love file is long or short depending on the phase; it closes itself often to make space for the family document and the intimate. And time passes, we are happy, full of life, there is yet so much to share, a little waffling feels good, and then there is the real letting go, the one that points to all the banished tensions, our cellulite, physical exercise choices, the latest creams, and then comes the slow arrival of the end of a really good moment, which we could not exchange for anything in the world, one that will make us wait impatiently for the next encounter.
How nice it would be to share with you my beautiful, perhaps under the sun in St Martin or on the canals of Amsterdam?
Kisses. Sonia.